For a Powells.com Ink Q & A, she named five books "that all turn on the question of intersubjectivity: the "I" and the "you":
Art and Answerability: Early Philosophical Essays by M.M. BahktinRead Siri Hustvedt's Q & A.
Between Man and Man by Martin Buber
The Child, the Family, and the Outside World by D.W. Winnicott
The Philosophical Discourse of Modernity by Jurgen Habermas
Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self by Allan N. Schore